EDWARD AND JAMES SNR

AND MY BIG BROTHER

JAMES (JIMMY) COPELAND JNR
sincerely appreciates your kind
expression of sympathy
in our great loss.
Your sympathy to our family
were greatly appreciated.
The copeland family
finds healing in God’s
tender love and embrace,
and in knowing others
remembered and cared.
Thank you for keeping us
in your thoughts and prayers. 

 ITS BEEN NEARLY FIVE YEARS SINCE I SET

UP THIS SITE TO KEEP MY LITTLE BROTHERS

MEMORY ALIVE SINCE THEN I HAVE LOST

MY DAD AND BIG BROTHER

ALL THREE TOOK THERE OWN LIFES

NEVER KNOWING WHAT THE IMPACT WOULD BE

ON THE REST OF MY FAMILY

IT NEVER CEASES TO AMAZE ME HOW MANY

STRANGERS STOP BY TO KEEP THERE CANDLES GLOWING BRIGHT

ID LIKE TO THANK EACH AND EVERY ONE OF YOUS

FOR MAKING IT EASIER FOR ME

FOR AWHILE I STOPPED COMING ON HERE

BECAUES IT RIPPED MY HEART OUT

BUT I RELIZE IT DOESNT MATTER IF I COME ON

OR NOT I WILL ALWAYS MISS THEM

SO AM GOING TO KEEP COMING BACK

IVE MADE MANY FRIENDS ON THIS SITE

AND WITHOUT THEM ID HAVE BEEN LOST

SO ID LIKE AGAIN TO THANK YOU

ALL FOR KEEPING THE CANDLES BURNING

LOVE AND BLESSINGS TO YOU

ALL

You have to go through to get through. I wish that there were a simpler way. I wish that I could bring you to the place where I am, but I cannot. I can only validate that you are not alone in any of these excruciatingly painful moments and that you are not crazy, you are bereaved.While some days are easier than others, it is the hard ones we have to fumble our way through just to make it another day. It’s not uncommon during a typical daily routine to suddenly have an overwhelming feeling grab you completely by surprise about your loved one. You may find yourself saying, “He was real! He really, really, really, was here!” You may be left wondering how so many people could show up for the funeral and months later, seem to have forgotten that your pain is still consuming you.During the funerals of our loved ones, many of us felt like all eyes were on us or, that we were under a microscope and everyone was expecting a reaction. Some of us could not cry tears because we could not let down the barriers that protected us from our raw emotion. We were able to maintain control. People whom you expected to show and offer support were no where to be found, while others, who you never thought cared, helped to guide you each and every step of the way. One of the hardest things about grief is the so called “time table.” You are led to believe that you should be feeling one way or the other in an allotted amount of time, and then expected by the non-bereaved, to “get over it,” and move on with your life. This can cause you to feel frustrated because getting over it is not a realistic option. You are simply doing the best you can with what is left of you.Whatever way you decide to handle the death of your beloved is normal. Some will keep a room in their house, perhaps their loved ones bedroom, untouched. Even when moving, a new room will be set up exactly as the old one was with an intention to display photos, memorabilia or special things. The non-bereaved may think of this as unhealthy. For the bereaved, living our lives longing for every moment without our departed is also not healthy. Others should never question our ways of remembering, grieving, or even celebrating the memory of our deceased Many people ask if their loved ones miss them as much as they are being missed. They don’t miss US because they are still around we just cant see them,. Sometimes when we close our eyes, we can sense them.new loss brings back all the unresolved feelings of grief from past losses. Grief is work and if you push it aside and don’t do the work, it will wait for you. When you do go into “shut down mode” or “the pit,” stay awhile and work those tears of pain, get them through your system. Past grief will resurface and sometimes more powerfully if it is not dealt with properly, and though you may be tempted to mask your hurt with drugs, alcohol, or work, it is not only time that heals but the act of grieving itself. Allow yourself tears. You have to get them out or they will build up, erupting like a volcano. As bizarre as it sounds, you have to find a way to make yourself have a good cry. i should no ive done it now three times in the last three years,i miss my brothers and dad every day and always will,but i also know by me being sad holds them back from there healing,they feel our pain ,they cry for us,so today i promise them i will try and stop crying and missing them but i wont promise i wont think of them every day,wont stop missing them.but with my hand on my heart i know without a doubt il never stop LOVING THEM,

EDWARD,DAD JIMMY REST IN PEACE MAY YOU FIND EVERY LASTING PEACE IN HEAVE UNTILL WE CAN BE TOGETHER AGAIN


im not personally suicidal,
but my brother and father committed it, and i personally think that if they had read or thought about these things, it might not have happened....i thought it was really important to put here. i know people who feel this way, and choosing suicide as your way out isn't the answer. Don't just skim through these words, please take the time to read the whole thing.You've decided to do it. Life is impossible. Suicide is your way out. Fine -- but before you kill yourself, consider these facts:Suicide is not usually successful.You know a guaranteed way? Ask the 25yr old who tried to electrocute himself. He lived. But, both of his arms are gone.
What about jumping? Ask the man who used to be intelligent, with an engaging sense of humour. That was before he leapt from a building. Now, he's brain damaged and will always need care. He staggers and has seizures. He lives in a fog. But, worst of all, he knows he used to be normal.
What about pills? Ask the 12yr old with extensive liver damage from an overdose. Have you ever seen anyone die of liver damage? You turn yellow. It's a hard way to go.
What about a gun? Ask the 24yd old who shot himself in the head. Now he drags one leg, has a useless arm and has no vision or hearing on one side. He lived through his 'foolproof" suicide.You might too. But. … who will clean your blood off the carpet or scrape your brains from the ceiling? but someone has to do it. Who will cut you down from where you hung yourself, or identify your bloated body after you've drowned? Your father? Your mother? Your sister or brother? i had to, The carefully worded 'loving" suicide note is of no help. i didn't even get one, Those who loved you will never completely recover. they will live with the memory of seeing you lying there forever in there dreams in the daylite hours also when they are doing nothing the image just pops back into your head They'll feel regret and an unending pain.guilt?was there something you could of done i think that every day since the 24th of march after my brother took his own lifeYou do have other choices. There are people you can help you through this crisis. Call a hotline. Call a friend. Call a doctor or hospital. Call the police. They will tell you there's hope. Maybe in a phone call this weekend. But what you're seeking could be just a minute, a month, or a day away.
You say you don't want to be stopped? Still want to do it? Well, then, I may see you in the psychiatric ward later. And we'll work with whatever you have left.If you're seriously considering this permanent solution to a temporary problem, please find help. This isn't the way to go, you may think that everyone would just be better off without you, but have you ever seen a family who has lost a loved one to suicide? come visit me for awhile see what i do i spend my days on my brothers site, but it doesn't bring him back, or my dad yes he killed himself three weeks after my brother, the siblings never talk to each other. This not only ends your life, it changes the lives of others around you,, but not in a good way.like my daughters they were just getting to know there uncle edward,they now know pain which in there young lifes they cant make sense of why did uncle edward do that,and i cant answer that question for them they are to young should never have had to feel that sort of pain There are people who love you, and people who have been through the same things as you, even though it may not seem like it at times. So please, seek help, i get up each morning and light a candle for my loved ones but it docent stop me hurting, it doesn't bring them back again, now its to late for them but its not to late for you,
& I hope you have realised; Suicide's not the way out. there are so many other safer ways of dealing with your problems. Maybe you think it's easier to just die. But think of what you are giving up. you're leaving your family, friends, and all the people who care about you and love you. And maybe you're not even that old yet, you have to experience life, find true love, that kind of stuff. Killing yourself isn't going to help. That's just running away from your problems, it's not solving anything, it's not making it better.I know i can't convince you to not commit suicide, but just please think about everything a little before you do anything. take it from someone whose lost loved ones to suicideThere's always someone who will be there for you to talk things through even if it seems like no one is there for you. Everything will get better, and it will be okay. you just have to be strong, you will get through itSo whenever you are going to pick up that knife, or razor, just think about all the people you are leaving behind, all the memories, and all the good times. they might have been few and far between but that doesn't mean they wont come again, TRUST ME THEY WILLI guess sometimes everybody feels like they want to die at least once in their life. And you think there is no other way, just read this over.Remember:
You live to have fun, and joke around; Not to be depressed. I know depression isn't an easy thing to get over, but it is possible. …? Please read this all it may change your life for ever♥ what about all the growing up, having kids, a husband? being a grandmother, honestly to die by your own hand will never be the answerYOU ONLY GET ONE CHANCE AT LIFE, IF YOU DECIDE TO KILL YOURSELF THERE IS NO COMING BACK SO BEFORE YOU DO ANYTHING PLEASE THINK ON EVERYTHING I HAVE WRITTEN HERE, IT DOES MAKE SENSE PROMISELIFE IS A GIFT, ITS UP TO YOU HOW YOU LIVE IT AND IF TODAY YOUR FEELING LOW REMEMBER TOMORROW IS JUST AROUND THE CORNER AND SO ARE YOUR DREAMS, I MISS MY BROTHER SO MUCH, BUT I CANT BRING HIM BACK
LOVING YOU ALWAYS EDWARD
LOVE LISA 

 Life without purpose is barren indeed- There can’t be a harvest unless you plant seed, There can’t be attainment unless there’s a goal, And man’s but a robot unless there’s a soul........ If we send no ships out, no ships will come in, And unless there’s a contest, nobody can win....... For games can’t be won unless they are played, And prayers can’t be answered unless they are prayed...... So whatever is wrong with your life today, You’ll find a solution if you kneel down and pray Not just for pleasure, enjoyment and health, Not just for honours and prestige and wealth...... But pray for a purpose to make life worth living, And pray for the joy of unselfish giving For great is your gladness and rich your reward When you make your life’s purpose the choice of the Lord.

Memories in my Heart
I try and Feel no guilt in laughter, Edward knows how much i cared
Feel no sorrow in a smile that he’s not here to share
You cannot grieve forever, he would not want us to but it dosent stop me missing him 
he’d hope that we would carry on, the way we always do,so as your third year in passing creeps up on us this month 
We talk about the good times and the ways you showed you cared
The days we spent together, all the happiness we shared
Let memories surround us always.
A word someone may say
Will suddenly recapture a time, an hour, a day
That brings Edward back as clearly as though he were still here
And fills me with the feelings that he is always near
For if i keep these moments, We will never be apart
And he will live forever locked safe within my heart

you will see
All the memories that you have of me
Just sit and relax and you will find
I'm really still there inside your mind
Don’t cry for me now I'm gone
For I am in the land of song
There is no pain, there is no fear
So dry away that silent tear
Don’t think of me in the dark and cold
For here I am, no longer old
I'm in that place that’s filled with love
Known to you all, as "UP ABOVE"

With each passing day your absence is more vivid......With your death our lives were changed forever...with each year that passes it changes again....we miss you so much Edward no matter the years that have gone by its like we lost you yesterday i wish i could change things just so i could hold you and tell you how much you were loved,life passes by so quick and we take things for granted little did I know we would lose you am so thankful you came to stay with me that year i had with you will always be so special,its hard to say what am feeling at the minute there's this ache which i cant remove in me its there with me all the time sometimes i can put it to the back of my mind but other times it hits me am never going to see you again and it rips me apart is scares me,i know in my heart you are happy I also no You walk with us everyday, we know your there, and you will be always loved for eternity... but bro it don't stop me hurting I wish it did
You were the most loving, generous, kind person who didn't deserve the manner of death that came your way. I pray Jesus is holding you closely and the pain you were feeling has gone,so I sit and write this in
remberence of a wonderful brother, there are days like today that I feel like I cant go on but I know I have to for the girls I know am here for them and I will see you again,To Some you may be forgotten, others a part of the past, But to those who love you and lost you,Your memory will always last... i will forever keep your memory alive in my heart and soul. it's been three years of a lifetime of a lost loved one....i can't explain what my life has been without you. only of the total emptiness in my heart where you belong. even though i carry you with me always, i will forever want you here. you and dad and are together and that brings me some peace knowing yous have put things behind you, but the selfish part of me wants to see, smell and hold you. how i wish i could hear your voice again. i will forever carry you with me till its my time to be reunited with you watch over the family,till i see you and dad again i will always love both of you.in memory of my brother

It's been 3yrS since you've been gone... and I find myself on your website alot, because not a day goes by that I don't think of you. I'm still having trouble coming to terms with the fact that you're gone, and I'll never be able to talk to you again :( I wish on that last day, I could have said something different that would have changed things. I'm sorry that you felt so sad and lonely, and I'm sorry that there was nothing I said that helped you. Your ANGEL DAY IS ON MONDAY , I wish you were still here so I could tell you i love you. I miss you so much... There's tears in my eyes, and sadness in my heart... but I'm glad you're at peace.

We went through many hard years as a family but we always knew that we loved each other. we all struggle without you everyday but we know that you are in a better place. There isn't a day that goes by that I don't think of you and wish that I could've done more... that I could've said more. I wish you could be here now. Things have changed since you went your an uncle again,colleen became a grandma and donna is getting married and we all wish you were here for those events in the family. I miss you and I love you so much. I know you are watching over me and that gives me peace at night. For all of the things you did for me and our family I thank you. My fondest memories are you playing draughts with sonia and letting her cheat i love you bro
The hole that was left when you passed will never be filled. It is way to large

Edward and Jimmy 
you left us so suddenly and much too soon. We didn't get to say good bye and to tell you again that we love you. We know you knew you were loved. The pain never leaves the loved ones left behind. We can find relive our wonderful memories of times gone by -from you as an adorable little boy to a handsome grown man. We are proud of you and what you accomplished. We will always miss you. My prayer is that you and Dad are with all our loved ones who have been called home before us. May you know the love of all of your family & friends whoa are still here on earth. Most of all may you feel and know the love of our Heavenly Father,,,Words cannot express the pain that still lingers from loosing you - so young - so much left to do. We know God is using you as one of his hard working angels. You were never afraid of hard work. We miss you and look forward to seeing you in our Heavenly Home when God is ready to call us home too...
So many friends and hearts left broken never able to mend. You showed those you knew a heart that could only be made of the purest gold,You will live on in our hearts this stands true, Living strong inside of us in each day we see through. For Ever and Always we will cherish your embrace,Knowing your here with us no matter the place.You will always be with us our dearly begotten,Never To Be Forgotten.. You are truly missed and loved. All we wish is that you would come back to us for we could see that smile you always made. it hurts so much that your not here but only god knows why.You are never forgotten.The good die young.But we know your happy and watching over us

A PRAYER FOR HEALING
Lord, You invite all who are burdened to come to you. Allow Your healing Hand to heal me. Touch my soul with Your compassion for others; touch my heart with Your courage and infinite Love for all; touch my mind with Your Wisdom, and may my mouth always proclaim Your praise. Teach me to reach out to You in all my needs, and help me to lead others to You by my example.
Most loving Heart of Jesus, bring me health in body and spirit that I may serve You with all my strength. Touch gently this life which you have created, now and forever.
Amen.